Yes or no.
Right or wrong.
True or false.
All or nothing.
Us or them.
Black and white thinking is easy. It’s lazy, but it’s quick. No need to think too much, no need to ask questions, no need to doubt yourself. Pick one and you’re good to go.
But what about the in-betweens? The gray areas? The complex, the complicated? The paradoxes? How do you deal with them? Do you just ignore them and pretend they don’t exist? Do you oversimplify and ignore any type of nuance or ambiguity?
Perhaps the question is, even if you want to, can it be that simple? Life is complicated, and not so easily defined. Someone might love you, but hurt you at the same time. Things you thought were entirely idiotic 5 years ago might now start to make more sense.
After every new insight or experience you need to reconsider and update your idea of who you are and what you stand for, as well as how the world around you works. If you don’t, that idea will get shattered unexpectedly and you’ll struggle to put the pieces back together.